Holidays · Single

5 Steps to Beat the Holiday Singlehood Blues by Dr. Lara Fernandez

I grabbed this off Dr. Lara Fernandez’s blog.  You should follow her, she’s awesome:

Step #1. Cultivate a sense of wonder and awe within yourself about the holidays.

Let go of judgmental thoughts about the crazy commercialism that’s going on right now. That doesn’t help you at all. What you focus on expands and grows. Focus on the reason for the season. Look up and read the history of this time period and why it’s such a sacred time. It’s been sacred for centuries. There’s a reason that it all started and it’s never been about getting the newest electronic gadget under the tree or buying the perfect gift for someone.

So, stop focusing on judging others for their obsessions around getting the perfect gift or the ridiculousness of Black Friday sales or Cyber Mondays….. Focus on what really matters: your connection with the people you love and your community. Take your child or your niece or nephew to see the Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa lights. Do whatever you can to look for and to see the lights and the wonder from their eyes. As you move throughout your holidays, ask yourself this beautiful yet powerful question:

“Where can I find the joy in the present moment right now?”

Step #2. Quiet time/contemplation/meditation/prayer time daily.

woman drinking tea 5 Steps to Beat the Holiday “Single Woman Blues”At least 5 minutes a day of reflection is so crucial right now. Make yourself a nice cup of hot tea, and just sit and reflect on the good stuff in your life. Pray to your Higher Power for peace of mind and serenity during this busy time. Prayer works. Make conscious contact with God and give thanks for this moment. Give yourself this CRUCIAL gift of just 5 minutes by yourself, for yourself, in gratitude and thanks for the blessings in your life. I dare you to try this for the next 7 days. Commit to it. Watch your life get better. Wash, rinse, and repeat.

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough”
– Meister Eckhart

Step #3: Continue to inspire yourself by learning and growing.

In order to have something you’ve never had before, you need to become a person you’ve never been before. New ideas. New Insights about yourself, love, and life. You need to continue to learn and grow. At a loss for ideas? I’ve got some for you. We’ll be having a holiday sale soon on our home learning courses for you to continue to stay inspired and to learn more about YOU and how you tick, so you can become a magnet for soulmate love and the life of your dreams!

Step #4: Stay in a community where the conversation is positive, supportive, loving and uplifting

NM Girlfriends 300x194 5 Steps to Beat the Holiday “Single Woman Blues”Cultivate your own “bubble” so you can stay immersed in high energy vibrations and be attractive to miracles in your life. You want to go for what many people think is impossible and live a life that many people don’t think is possible to live. Especially when you’re talking about something like attracting your soulmate, you’ll find that the media, that general society, and yes, even some naysayers in your friends and family just don’t think it’s possible. So of course it’s not… for them. Stay around people who believe it’s possible – that”ll help you with any doubts, insecurities or fears, so that you can stay believing that it’s possible for YOU. So ask yourself now, “How can I keep myself around people with whom the network of conversation is positive, uplifting, insightful, meaningful, and full of hope, belief and spiritual joy?”

Step #5: Say YES to what you do want to do, and NO to what you don’t.

During the holiday season, it’s easy to just keep saying yes to parties, gatherings and events, and to get yourself overwhelmed in the process. Make sure you are scheduling plenty of down time during the month of December, and that when you RSVP “yes” to a party, that you REALLY MEAN IT. And don’t be afraid to say NO. It’s better to say NO and mean it, than to say yes and then flake out at the last minute.

This is an important time to focus on yourself and what you want in 2014, give yourself the space and the energy to focus on and invest in your dreams.

So there you have it. The 5 steps to beat the holiday singlehood blues. I sincerely hope this helps you stay grounded and joyful throughout the holiday season, and hopeful for 2014.

So, what do YOU do to keep your vibration high during the holidays as a single woman? Please DO share in the comments section below. I love to hear from you and I do my best to respond to every comment as soon as I can.

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